3 Things I Stopped Apologizing For As A Mother
As a mom we tend to feel guilty for doing things for ourselves. Apologizing for wanting to spend that $5 for coffee in the morning, $20 for our favorite lipstick, or not spending anything but wanting to take time for ourselves.
With my second child it was extremely hard for me transitioning into a mommy of two. I was constantly working myself so hard and everyone around me was happy, but myself. Every chance I got I was putting myself down. If I didn’t get to the laundry that day I would feel like the worst wife or mom ever. As time goes on, I no longer have the energy to spend on apologizing for taking care of myself so here’s a start!
Cutting negatively off!
This year I stopped apologizing to people that were “forced” to be in my kids life. Which means, the relatives that claim they LOOOOOVE your children but don’t call. It might be your side of the family or it might be your husband side, who cares. I’m not apologizing about putting my kids first anymore and I don’t care who it is. Or a one sided relationship where I do all the communicating and it’s never a mutual thing. Yeah, no thanks! CUT OFF COMPLETELY! Stop feeling bad for not responding to negative energy and just simply remove them without warning.
Spending $5 on myself once or twice a week!
I love me a nice coffee every now and then, or nice little leggings in the clearance section. I wonder who ever made the first mom guilty for doing things for herself, and then it became a trend? Because, if you do nothing all week for yourself Monday-Friday why can’t you go grab a small coffee Saturday and relax? If I want to feel fancy I would make my own coffee in my hydro flask and will spend and extra $5 on the Target dollar section. Being a mother has taught me to pick my battles, and girl this is certainly not one of them!
Asking for help
At the beginning of motherhood, I thought I was too prideful to ask for help even though I really needed it. Or thinking just because I wasn’t working outside of the home that I shouldn’t ask my husband for help. That really bothered me that I could have a baby with someone, but just because he works and I don’t I shouldn’t be allowed to ask for help. I see so many mothers that struggle mentally, because they “have to” do it all. No, I am asking for help today, tonight, tomorrow, and the next time I feel I need it. There’s so many mothers that are suffering from post partum depression for this exact reason and more. I understood that my husband maybe tired as well when we comes home from work, but I have done this all day and again all night. The least I could ask for is help with dinner, folding laundry, or getting the older children to bed. To be honest if you worked and came home by a show of hands, how many of you would still be cooking dinner, feeding kids, checking homework, laundry, etc. Why is it any different for you? My motto is “if you can sit there and complain about it, you can do it yourself”.
These are just a few things I’ve stopped apologizing for as a mother. What are some things are you not apologizing for?
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